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  • Six Things to Include in Your Child's Day:

    • meaningful work
    • imaginative play
    • good books
    • beauty (art, music, nature)
    • ideas to ponder and discuss
    • prayer

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  • Jane, 12 yrs old
    Rose, 9 yrs
    Beanie, 7 yrs
    Wonderboy, 4 yrs
    baby Rilla, 21 months

    and Scott, the love of my life

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Poetry Corner

  • FERN HILL

    by Dylan Thomas


    Now as I was young and easy under the apple boughs

    About the lilting house and happy as the grass was green,

    The night above the dingle starry,

    Time let me hail and climb

    Golden in the heydays of his eyes,

    And honoured among wagons I was prince of the apple towns

    And once below a time I lordly had the trees and leaves

    Trail with daisies and barley

    Down the rivers of the windfall light.



    And as I was green and carefree, famous among the barns

    About the happy yard and singing as the farm was home,

    In the sun that is young once only,

    Time let me play and be

    Golden in the mercy of his means,

    And green and golden I was huntsman and herdsman, the calves

    Sang to my horn, the foxes on the hills barked clear and cold,

    And the sabbath rang slowly

    In the pebbles of the holy streams.



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    THE LAKE ISLE OF INNISFREE
    by William Butler Yeats

    I will arise and go now, and go to Innisfree,
    And a small cabin build there, of clay and wattles made;
    Nine bean rows will I have there, a hive for the honey bee,
    And live alone in the bee-loud glade.

    And I shall have some peace there, for peace comes dropping slow,
    Dropping from the veils of the morning to where the cricket sings;
    There midnight's all a glimmer, and noon a purple glow,
    And evening full of the linnet's wings.

    I will arise and go now, for always night and day
    I hear lake water lapping with low sounds by the shore;
    While I stand on the roadway, or on the pavements gray,
    I hear it in the deep heart's core.


Our Big Cross-Country Trip

In October of 2006, I packed my five children into our minivan and drove from Crozet, Virginia, just west of Charlottesville, to San Diego, California, where my husband had begun a new job a few months earlier. Our road trip was a grand adventure, and I live-blogged the whole thing. This page collects those posts, as well as the posts written by my best pal, Alice, whom I talked to every day on the road.

The adventure began, as many adventures do, with a christening. In the frantic days before Scott's departure—he had to be on the job in mid-July—we squeezed in two very important family events: Rilla's baptism and Rose's First Holy Communion. Despite a rather embarrassing faux pas on my part, the day was beautiful and surprised us with just how much significance it held for our upcoming move:

In all the chaos I hadn't really noticed that yesterday was the feast day of Blessed Junipero Serra, an eighteenth-century Franciscan priest who founded missions all along the coast of California. Imagine how my heart thumped when our priest, Fr. Francis, began his homily with a story about his trip to San Diego last year when he visited the mission established by Father Junipero. He spoke about Junipero's travels and how he was so full of joy in the gospel that he couldn't help sharing it wherever he went. The homily ended with these words, which are still ringing in my ears:

"Like Bl. Junipero, we too are sent forth to—through our lives and occasionally through our words—share our joy with others."

(Here's the whole post.)




In August, we made a trial run to Alice's house in New York. We couldn't leave the East Coast without introducing our new baby to hers!

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I later wrote about what my kids packed in their backpacks for the trip.



And I wrote about how hard it was to be separated from Scott all summer. Our neighbors helped a lot, a LOT. iChat helped too.

Suddenly we had a move date and I realized we'd spent the last regular day in our old home, because it was time to focus all our attention on the packing. Moving, I discovered, is like childbirth. And also like living in a sliding puzzle.

A couple of days before the movers came, I fell and hurt my wrist, but it wasn't too bad.

October 1st: the last hard push before the packers came.

Somewhere in there, we took a walk up our street for the last time.

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October 2nd, the packers arrived.

October 3rd, loading day. When it was over, we were exhausted.

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All too soon, it was time for the hard goodbyes: goodbye to our beloved butterfly garden, farewell to cherished friends.

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Now the trip posts begin. Most of them were short—I texted them on my cell phone—so I'll put them on this page in their entirety. To see the originals (with comments), click the post titles.

October 4, Day 1 on the road. Crozet, VA to Charleston, WV.

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From this point on, all photos were taken with my cell phone—thus the fuzziness!

Goodbye, Almost Heaven—Hello, West Virginia

We're in Charleston WV, not-sleeping in a hotel room. This morning was hard: the goodbyes. Then the Blue Ridge slipping away behind us. But oh the gorgeous views. We saw autumn progress by the hour: so many more reds and goldens in the trees here.

Stopped for a long break at the New River Gorge visitor center: awesome. Kids had a ball hunting the answers to nature mystery exhibits. I stopped there on a whim and we wound up staying almost an hour.

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October 5th, West Virginia to Kentucky.

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See, Our Old Neighborhood Is Having a Bit of a Bear Problem

Rose: What do they have in San Diego—wolves, foxes, or coyotes?

Me, thinking it's the setup for a joke: Um, coyotes?

Rose, dead serious: Oh great. From bears to coyotes! That really is out of the frying pan into the oven.



Today in Brief

One case of conjunctivitis, two Belgian waffles, three states, four stuffy noses, five chocolate milks, six "Are they all yours?" queries, seven pieces of salt water taffy, eight choruses of Big Rock Candy Mountain, nine bridges, and I literally just fell asleep while trying to think of ten, so it's time to quit thinking and go to sleep.



October 6th, Kentucky to Indiana.

Instead of Posting

I will just write titles and let you fill in the blanks. Like:

Spilled milk is blue under blacklights

or

Pinkeye and red nose

or

It's really cold in the parking lot at three in the morning

(Note to self: don't leave contact lens case in car.)



October 7th, Indiana to Missouri.

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Giant spools on a flatbed parked outside the Comfort Inn in Dale, IN.

The Complimentary Breakfast Buffet May Be Man's Finest Achievement

Belgian waffles! Sausage and bacon! All you can eat for the five of us who eat table food, included in the price of the room. Gotta love that. We are breakfasting our way across America. It was the Ramada in Charlestown WV that had (as icing on the cake) blacklights above the table. The kids loved seeing their milk turn blue. This morning we're in Dale, Indiana. I swear parts of southern IN look like the Shire. Except, you know, for the Denny's billboards. (BTW, no worries about the pinkeye. My awesome VA doc got a scrip phoned in to the Rite Aid in Winchester, KY. I'll be fine.)

But Is It My Color?

Cracker Barrel east of St. Louis. Full dish of cocktail sauce in baby's fist. All over my jeans! Not my favorite perfume. Now at McDonald's Play Place for some exercise. Is this what they mean when they talk about seeing America? Next up: the Arch. (Singular and not golden.)

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Photo taken by Jane out the car window as we crossed the mighty Mississip.

After Two Days in the Car, it Could Be Worse

Rose: Even though Beanie can be annoying, I wouldn't want her to be eaten by a shark.

(I'm sure we're all glad to hear THAT.)



Alice recaps our first leg of the trip: A Path to the Pacific.



October 8, Missouri to Kansas.

No Catholic Church in Boonville MO

Looks like we'll have to head to KS City for Mass this morning. Might also be able to squeeze in a quick hello with some friends there, and then it's on to Kansas and an overnight rendezvous with Karen E! Color me a-cited!

I think it was over at Lilting House that I was rhapsodizing about that fine invention, the breakfast buffet. I forgot the best part of yesterday's morning repast. The food was in the hotel lobby, the tables in a small adjoining room. I filled Beanie's plate and told her to go find a place for us to sit. When I entered the dining room with my own full plate, I was surprised to spot Bean chowing down at a table occupied by a large party of senior citizens. Everyone at EVERY table was grinning with amusement at our happy Bean and her hard-boiled egg.

"Oh!" I cried. I had to laugh. "I told her to find a seat. Guess I didn't specify AT AN EMPTY TABLE!"



Alice chronicled my Kansas drive for me: "I spoke to Lissa just as she was crossing the Kansas River this afternoon. She was in high spirits as the sights and sounds of the prairie always give her a feeling of coming home." (Continues...)



October 9, drove to Salina, Kansas, where we rendezvoused with Karen E and her girls.

Again With the Counting

One hotel, two pizzas, eight children, a thousand giggles, one stern phone call from the front desk.

Friends worth driving to Kansas for (even if we weren't just passing through): priceless.



Back home in Nebraska, Karen wrote this lovely post about the fun our gaggle of girls had together.

And here's Alice's daily bulletin!



October 10, Salina, Kansas, to Burlington, Colorado.

Oh Give Me a Home Where My Phone Doesn't Roam

We're in Colorado! No web access all day yesterday, but loads of fun. Really. The Prairie Museum of Art & History in Colby, Kansas: HIGHLY RECOMMENDED. Super fun even in cold rain. More on that later.

More on everything later! For now: Pike's Peak or Bust! OK, not really. We aren't going to Colorado Springs. Grandma's House or Bust! Only a few hours to go before we descend upon my parents in a noisy, rowdy, riled-up bunch. You sure you're ready for this, Mom & Dad?

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Beanie explores a display of memorabilia in the Prairie Museum.

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Jane does a little light housework in the soddy.

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And Rose, as is her wont, makes a four-legged friend.




Alice's Oct. 10 recap: "Toto, They're Not in Kansas Anymore."

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Approaching Burlington, Colorado (and our only snowstorm of the trip).




Ain't It Good to Be Back Home Again

The first (long) leg of our journey is over. We made it to my parents' house in Colorado, and the first thing I saw when I walked into my mother's kitchen was my favorite cake waiting for me on the counter. Which is why I can't write more right now. Don't want to get crumbs in my father's keyboard, you know.



Oct. 11, still in Denver

So Much to Write About

So little time to write! This morning, at least. We are off soon for another fun visit with friends, and I still haven't had a chance to write about our marvelous visit with the Edmisten clan, who (amazing, this!!) drove four hours to meet us in Kansas the other day. Four hours. Each way. I mean, really. A. MAZE. ING.

And then there are all the stories and snippets from the trip, the ones too long to type into a PDA. Soon, soon. (I am promising myself. Must chronicle travels or else explode into teeny tiny bits of untold tales. Story shrapnel?)

Of course I'll be forever in Alice's debt (again) for taking notes on all the things I babbled into my wireless headset on the drive. She is the best kind of friend, the kind who not only doesn't MIND if you interrupt her on the phone to maniacally shriek LOOK LOOK GIRLS A BURROWING OWL ON THE FENCEPOST OH RATS YOU MISSED IT!!!!! I'm sorry, Alice, you were saying?, she even writes down what you're shrieking about. She also says far nicer things about me than I deserve, but you can just skip over those parts. She is totally biased, and we should all just be very frank about that. Whenever she uses words like "descriptive," "spontaneous," and "adventurous," you should substitute "longwinded," "flaky," and "nuts." Just so you know.



While there, enjoying the chocolate cake and the round-the-clock babysitting, I had time to write about an encounter on the road in Kansas. It's a longer post (and probably my best one from the whole trip), so I'll just put the first paragraph here.

Ain't That America

Somewhere in the middle of Kansas, I called Scott to say we'd be stopping for lunch in either Wakeeney or Ogallah, I wasn't sure which. He called back and got my voice mail. Left me a message saying Wakeeney has a population of something like 1650 souls. Ogallah? Population 162. By the time I heard his message we'd already driven through Ogallah and hadn't seen enough evidence of human existence to sustain sixteen people, much less a hundred and sixty. (Continue...)



October 13, Denver

Agley Again

No post yesterday because I spent all day trying to figure out our plans for the next leg of this travelpalooza. And also eating cake. Karen, you asked WHAT KIND of cake? It's my mom's famous Rocky Road Sheet Cake although technically it isn't rocky road because years ago, at our request, she started leaving out the marshmallows. It's an incredibly moist and rich made-from-scratch sheet cake with a semisweet fudge frosting studded with pecans. You just can't believe how good this cake is. I will be riding the sugar-high all the way to New Mexico.

So. The movers threw a wrinkle into our plans. The truck was supposed to reach San Diego, oh, about now. Scott is waiting on the other end to meet it, and then the plan was for him to fly out here to Denver and make the rest of the trip with us. But now the truck isn't arriving until next Monday. Which means he loses the weekend for traveling. Argh.

But not to worry. We have a new plan. He's meeting us in Phoenix instead. See, we all really want to make the last bit of the drive together, the entry into California, the first glimpse of the Pacific. (For the kids and me, it really is our first glimpse. I've never been west of this great state of Colorado.)

So I'll leave Sunday and head south. Scott will meet the truck on Monday and grab a cheap one-way flight to Phoenix early Wednesday morning. (Knowing how inevitably the best-laid plans of mice and moms gang agley, we are allowing for a cushion day on Tuesday, just in case.)

In the meantime, the kids and I are thoroughly enjoying our respite at Grandma & Grandpa's house. The food, my word, the food! When my sister came for dinner the other night, she surveyed the feast my mother had prepared and remarked that she had just mentioned to her husband that she was in the mood for a Thanksgiving-like spread. Which is what we've had, every night. Just yum.

My dad has taught Wonderboy how to go down the slide head-first. Which explains why the kid is walking around with leaves plastered to his forehead. Awesome.

On Wednesday the kids and I zipped across town for a lovely lunch visit with some 4 Real Learning friends. Mary, Mary, and Gwen, it was a joy to meet you all in person. We realized that between us, almost half of last year's impromptu Journey North group was present!

Yesterday was, as I said, devoted to trip planning and also the dreaded van-cleaning-out. Which actually wasn't too bad. I had to figure out how to clear space in the passenger seat for me to, you know, SIT in after Scott joins us. And then my mom took Jane and me shopping. Shopping! In an actual store! Where you see items in real life and put them in a shopping basket and then stand in line where an actual human person rings you up! No mouse-clicking of any kind! I could hardly remember how the whole system worked. Fortunately my mother was there to gently nudge me to the right side of the conveyor belt. ("No, dear, that's a cash register, not a computer, and you mustn't push the buttons.")

And she bought me some really cool shoes.



October 15, Denver

On the Road Again, Plus: Cake!

Well, the Colorado interlude is drawing to a close, and this morning the bairns and I will hit the open road again. Next stop: Somewhere, New Mexico.

But before I leave my mother's kitchen, she said I could share the My Favorite Cake recipe with you. So now you'll all know what to make me next time I visit. (Kidding! You don't have to!)

(Cherry cobbler will be just fine!)

(Or pie!)

(Or that thing people make that has chocolate cake and pudding and whipped cream all in one big gloppy bowl, whatever it's called. That's always a fine choice.)

(But I digress.)

Rocky Road Sheet Cake

Sift together: 2 cups flour, 1/4 tsp salt, 1 3/4 cups sugar, 4 tablespoons cocoa.

In saucepan, combine 1 cup cold water, 1/2 cup oil, 1/2 cup butter. Bring to boil and pour over dry ingredients. Beat until creamy. Add 1/2 cup buttermilk (only I'm pretty sure Mom just uses regular milk), 1 teaspoon baking soda, and 2 eggs. Beat well. Bake in greased sheet pan (one of those big old cookie sheets, not a cake pan) at 400 degrees for 18 minutes.

Frosting:

Melt 1/2 cup butter and stir in 1/4 cup cocoa. Then stir in 1 lb. powdered sugar. Yes, one whole pound. Hush. Add 1/3 cup milk and 1/2 teaspoon vanilla, and stir until creamy. Fold in 1/4 cup chopped pecans (I think my mom uses more than that, YUM) and, if you must, 1/2 cup miniature marshmallows cut in half. Personally, I'd think the marshmallows would make it too sweet. But it's your cake; do what you like.

Okay, there's my contribution to world happiness today. Now I have to go finish packing up. It's always the socks that get you, you know? I think we've left a trail of socks all the way across the country. There are at least six mateless socks in my bag now. I guess we can keep them as spares in the car so we won't get kicked out of any more McD's Playplaces. Did I tell you that story? Apparently you're not allowed in with bare feet anymore. They are very strict about that rule in Indiana, just so you know.



October 16, Aurora, CO to Santa Fe, NM

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Heading south from Denver on I-25.

Sometimes It's Hard to Make a Positive ID

Rose: "Mom! I just saw either a horse or an elk. I couldn't see the head or the tail, so I can't be sure which. It was definitely brown, though."



That was the day Alice christened my minivan and obliged me with some research:

"Our intrepid explorers are on the move again, using every leg of the journey as a springboard to nature, history, literature, geology, geography, and any other avenue of interest this great nation of ours may have to offer. They spotted a golden eagle wheeling circles in the Colorado sky and breezed past herds of bison and llamas, discovering more unusual wildlife by the side of the road in one morning than I would expect in a day at the zoo. Always fond of homeschoogling, the gang requested that I check the internet for information on a sign, 'Site of the Ludlow Massacre.' We were all appalled to learn about this terrible event, especially because it occurred in our own century."  (Post continues...)



October 16, Santa Fe to Winslow, AZ

Gusty Winds May Exist

I love the road signs in New Mexico. Polite, noncommittal, vaguely existential. Gusty winds did in fact exist when we crossed Raton Pass from Colorado into New Mexico. Also gorgeous views. This is one spectacularly beautiful country we live in. Yesterday's travel highlights: a golden eagle swooping over the road, a herd of bison (not wild), lots of mule deer, prairie dogs, and llamas. Also Pike's Peak, the Greenhorn Mountains, the Sangre de Christos, and the Spanish Peaks. Googleworthy landmarks: site of the Ludlow Massacre and Wagon Mound, NM. This morning we will explore Santa Fe, especially the church with the miraculous staircase. I have a great respect for the Sisters of Loretto, who built the church—but not the stair. (Something else for you to Google.) And more hotel infamy! Last night we managed to lock our bathroom door from the inside when no one was in it. Brilliant!



Standing on a Corner Down in Winslow, Arizona

I think I am now on a mission to title every other post with song lyrics. Just so you know. I haven't actually stood on any corners in Arizona yet, though. After our Hair-Raising Adventure, which cannot be described with thumbs alone and must therefore wait until I reach the New House (hint: it involves vomit, plane tickets, and a pack of junkyard dogs), all I could do was deposit us in this hotel, which has plenty of corners but not the kind you stand on. I suppose I should be glad we made it 2,417 miles before anyone threw up in the car. Before that, though: Loretto Chapel (breathtaking despite the touristy entrance fee), Sandia Crest, and the NW NM visitor's Center (possibly the cleanest bathroom in America and a cool video on volcanoes).

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The miraculous staircase of Loretto.

Alice didn't know we were going to visit Loretto Chapel, so this post of hers was typically insightful!



Later, after we were settled into our new home, I found time to write about the scary encounter with dogs I mentioned above:

I Never Did Tell You About Those Junkyard Dogs



On Oct. 17th, we drove from Winslow AZ to the Phoenix airport, where we had a joyous reunion with Scott, who flew in to meet us for the last piece of the trip. After a lot of hugging, we piled back in the van and drove to Yuma, Arizona, where we got the very last room in town, the seven of us squeezing into two lumpy queen-sized beds. The next day, Scott took us all the way to the Pacific shore.

On the way to Phoenix, we hit some rough weather.

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In Arizona: a changing landscape and a fierce storm.

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The worst of the storm is behind us now.

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Headed for Phoenix: It's all rainbows ahead.



I wrote this post in the car on Oct 18th:

Together at Last, Together Forever

I was torn between the Annie lyrics and Peaches & Herb, but in a contest between sappy and cheesy, I will always go for the sap. And anyway, it's true: "I don't need sunshine now to turn my skies to blue..." I don't need anything but the driver of this minivan. We picked him up at the Phoenix airport yesterday, spent the night in Yuma AZ, and JUST CROSSED THE LINE INTO CALIFORNIA. Hey, there's the broccoli crossing sign!! We're here! Just a couple more hours until we reach our new home.

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West of Yuma...

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...the landscape changes dramatically.

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A wind farm atop the Kumeyaay mountains. You can't imagine how big those turbines are until you're passing beneath them. They're like Redwoods.





Oct. 20th, San Diego, CA

Home Sweet Home

We're here. We're so happy!

When I last wrote, it was Wednesday morning and we were crossing the border into California. After that we crossed an honest-to-goodness desert and some amazing mountains, about which more later. Scott drove us right past our new town and straight to the end of the road. He wanted the kids to see the sea first, before anything else. And just: wow. Pelicans! Sea lions! So much blue!

And then he brought us home. We're renting an adorable little (very little) bungalow about half an hour's drive from his office, which is right on the water. (His office, not our house.) Right now the house is crammed full of boxes (obviously) and we're squeezing through the cardboard towers trying to find clean socks or, say, the washing machine. But our wonderful new friends had dinner waiting for us—two dinners, in fact!—and bags full of goodies from Trader Joe's. We ate like kings the first night, if kings used paper plates. Last night, another feast, and this time on real plates because I did manage to get the kitchen unpacked yesterday.

People are so incredibly nice. And the internet, really, what an amazing thing. Here I am in a city I've never set foot in before, and I'm being showered with as much warmth and food as if I'd lived here all my life. Or, say, five years, which is how long I was in Virginia, where our dear friends and kind neighbors took such good care of us during the long weeks and months of Scott's absence.

When I have to actually cook dinner next week, I may faint from the novelty of it.

We are loving the sight of palm trees and flowers wherever we go. And mountains! San Diego has mountains everywhere, who knew? Okay, Scott did, and he kept telling me about them, but really you have to see the city for yourself to understand how beautifully the urban development is speckled into the landscape.

The gang and I went out for a walk today. Around the block, we thought. It's possible I should have taken a peek at the map first because it turns out that if you go left and left at the first two corners, you can't go left again for about three-quarters of a mile. And then you will find yourself at the 7-11 your husband pointed out on the way in, a five-minute ride by car, which amounts to about thirty-five minutes by double stroller. Uphill most of the way. Fortunately we popped INTO the 7-11 before embarking upon the trip home, and the children now think we've come to paradise because there are ice-cream sandwiches within walking distance.

Scott was worried that I'd think the house was too small or too urban. It is both small and urban, but it's going to be great. I'm writing from our enclosed patio which is really more like a sunroom. Nice cross-breeze, and lots of room for the kids to play. And, HELLO, he's here. Well, not actually at this MOMENT, but he'll walk in the door at dinnertime and we will rush him in a pack because we can't believe the separation is finally over and we are TOGETHER.

And I think I should tell you that the first thing I saw when I opened the fridge was a new stash of Ritter bars. The man is a jewel. I'd drive three thousand miles for him all over again, if I had to.

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Postscript, a year after the adventure began:

"Go Forth to Share Your Joy."

I love it here.

I feel a little guilty saying it: we left behind such beloved friends back in Virginia (and in New York before that), and leaving them tore me up. I miss them wrenchingly, miss bumping into Sarah and her herd of turtles on the bike path across the street from Lisa's house, with Lisa waving a cheery hello from her incomparable flower garden. I miss pizza nights and berrypicking and Lisa's cream scones and sitting in the sun beside the neighborhood pool, counting heads and complaining about how much I can't stand sitting in the sun beside the pool, counting heads. (I have ever been a shade-loving sort of girl.)

I miss my blue mountains and the view from that bonny, bonny glen. But mostly I miss our friends. I know my girls—happy as they are here with new chums and a whirl of fun activities—still ache for the cherished pals they left behind.

The pain of separation is real and stark. And yet I knew, as we said our goodbyes last fall, with "Danny Boy" running endlessly on the soundtrack in my head, that it was easier for us, in many ways, to be the ones heading off on a splendid new adventure—not to mention reunion with Scott, who is half of me. If Lisa's family had left the neighborhood, or Sarah's, there would have been one mighty big hole ripped in the fabric of our daily lives.

I guess we were the ones ripping the hole this time—same as I'd done to Alice and Brigid five years earlier. And although you know your friends will get along fine without you, still you feel some guilt.

And that can make it hard to admit to yourself how much you love your new hometown.

I love it here, love San Diego like I've been living here all my life. Love the perfect weather, the white stucco buildings with the red clay tiles on their rooves, the unkempt hills rising abruptly from flat scrubby plain and subsiding just as suddenly, as if in imitation of the ocean swells just a few miles away. You couldn't call this valley we live in a bonny glen, exactly, but it's got an undeniable charm.

It's more than just the novelty—an avenue of palm trees will still catch me by surprise, but it's not just the unfamiliarity—it's what Jane of Lantern Hill would call "lashings of magic," meaning an indefinable quality about a place that speaks to something deep within you. We keep tumbling, here, upon places that whisper welcoming words to us, greeting us like they've been waiting for our footsteps since time out of mind.

The brown hills that flank Mission Gorge Road; the breathtaking expanse of blue rolling west from Point Loma, west to the end of the world; the swooping ride down a backstreet in Santee, where the suburban desert sprawls eastward toward red mountains that aren't hills so much as giant heaps of boulders. The old Estudillo estate on the plaza in Old Town, where stout white walls enclose a courtyard so laden with blossoms that hibiscus are as common as the dandelions that ruled our old backyard.

The white cross atop Mt. Helix in La Mesa, stark and serene against a cloudless sky. The Marian shrine at the Maronite Catholic Church, seventeen feet high and crowned in spring with a garland of flowers. The Mission San Diego de Alcala, the first church built—in 1769, two hundred years before I was born (and one hundred years before Laura Ingalls Wilder arrived in that little house in the big woods of Wisconsin)—by Fr. Junipero Serra, before he began his long trek north. Its pews are short, its center aisle wide, and arched doorways on three sides stand open to admit the jasmine-rich breezes. At Mass there, two weeks ago, Beanie sat wide-eyed, staring up at the rustic vines painted on the wooden beams of the ceiling. Her gaze was turned heavenward, but her thoughts were on the things of this earth: "Mommy," she whispered, "did people of olden times really go to church here, just like us?"

"Yes, sweetie, really."

"Do you think they had donuts after Mass?"

***

My own thoughts may not have drifted toward pastries (for once in my life), but I shared Bean's sense of wonder that morning. It was July 1st, and we were there for the First Communion of a new friend, the son of wonderful Erica who made us feel at home here before we even arrived. July 1st is the feast day of Fr. Serra, and there we were sitting in the church he built, listening to the priest speak about the parish's "first pastor."

Exactly one year earlier
, we had sat in another church thousands of miles away, red Virginia brick instead of white-washed adobe, at the First Holy Communion of our own child, listening to a priest speak about Bl. Junipero and the Mission San Diego de Alcala. We hadn't known, that Saturday morning, July 1st, that the day was the feast in honor of a saint who had carried the faith to the destination that was soon to be our new hometown.

"Imagine how my heart thumped," I wrote afterward,

"when our priest, Fr. Francis, began his homily with a story about his trip to San Diego last year when he visited the mission established by Father Junipero. He spoke about Junipero's travels and how he was so full of joy in the gospel that he couldn't help sharing it wherever he went. The homily ended with these words, which are still ringing in my ears:

'Like Bl. Junipero, we too are sent forth to—through our lives and occasionally through our words—share our joy with others.'

So here we are, beginning to feel at home in this magical city at the edge of the western world, missing our friends back east, deeply and daily, but yes, finding joy here, lashings of it. It bubbles up like a spring in the desert, spilling out, starting things growing—flowers lush as hibiscus for us to pluck and share with our friends old and new.

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